Why do we self-sabotage our own success?

Hey,

It's Alex.

It's hard to achieve something new in life when you are the one who stops it from happening.

• You try to create more content, but the mind pushes you to procrastinate.

• You want to have more friends, but for some reason, you don't care much about others.

• You want to have more money, but you don't want more responsibility.

• You want to have a better body, but you don't want to train.

Even our brain is against us, biased to preserve resources and pushing us to stay in the status quo, even if we aren't happy there.

The hustlers will tell you to push harder, to work harder.

For some, it will work. Others will end up in the hospital.

In fact, you can have the best system, a God-created blueprint for the perfect life - a legend that other people will write books about.

And you will still find a reason why it isn't going to work for you.

You will still choose Netflix and chill.

But inside, you will suffer…

I watch Netflix all the time. It's just one of the trillions of ways we can escape to escapism without taking responsibility for our own lives.

I will share a secret…

Working 16 hours per day can also be a self-sabotaging behavior and escapism behavior, especially when there are problems in relationships.

You can't solve your own self-sabotaging behavior when you don't even know where to look and understand why it's happening.

Most of the time, you don't even know that you self-sabotage at all, especially if you are single.

Why? How it’s connected?

Because when we have a partner, he/she can see things that we aren't aware of.

She becomes your personal reflective mirror.

Or in other words, she is becoming your uncertified coach.

And when she shares her opinion, it's usually brutal, emotional, and straight to the place that you were hiding or even aren't aware of at all.

Unfortunately, people don't know how to express feedback in a healthy way without hurting the soul.

Most of the time, feedback comes in a package filled with criticism and emotions.

Providing feedback that a person can feel and accept is an art that only therapists and coaches learn for years.

You can't see your true self alone. You just have part of the picture of how great you can be despite your self-sabotaging behavior.

You can do better.

I'm reminding you that I still have a spot for 1:1 Ontological Coaching with me.

Coaching where you will:

• Work on your way of being.

• Question your beliefs.

• Learn new things about yourself.

And in the end, get internal wisdom that allows you to do whatever you want.

Alex